In our relationships we often feel that we are not getting what we want. But if we were to examine each of these relationships clearly, we would find that we were getting exactly what we want, but not in the form we wanted it.
A great example of this is affection. Say you want affection from your lover, and believe the only way you can be given affection is through touch. So you start grumbling that your lover is not affectionate, complaining and comparing them to someone, some ideal that gives you affection just the way you like it (which is always what you didn’t get as a child). The truth is, they are giving you affection, because there are so many other ways it can arrive, but you become blinded to those other forms of affection because your ego is saying, “I want it, like this”. It’s like tunnel vision, only witnessing it in one way. We become so obsessed with getting what we want, and how we want it. So obsessed with feeding the hardened Ego what it wants, when it wants it, and in the form it wants it, that we have no appreciation for what we are given, and we start complaining.
People become as you treat them. If you are always walking around moaning that you are not getting what you want, in the form you want it, then you can be guaranteed that your partner will withdraw from you.
If you don’t appreciate what you’ve got, you lose it. By walking around complaining that something is missing, you are actually manifesting loss. If you don’t see that you are getting what you want, just in a different form, you are always going to come at your relationship with complaints, “This is missing”, “That is missing”, “This is not good enough”, and eventually drive your partner away. People become as you treat them, and an ungrateful lover gets a depreciated love. What you don’t appreciate, depreciates.
You’ll need to prioritise love, return to that sacred moment every day, hold that absolutely beyond negotiation, this is sacred relationship. Even if the sky falls, and they leave you, if you really love them, you will let them go happily. Love has no expectations. All pain in relationship is blocked love.
There is a wonderful opportunity to bring devotion to your relationship. The real issue here is; are you prepared to make the love between you and your lover a priority in your life? That means it is more important than your work, your sport, your children and your wealth.
In the whole of the universe, every molecule has a place, a role, a gift. If you can just be thankful for what you have, for the blessing of life itself, and remind yourself of how lucky you are, then your whole life would change in just that one acknowledgement. We complain about love only because we expect more and more. But we forget how lucky we are. Once you see the gift of your life, your heart will open again, your youthfulness will shine, your energy becomes infectious, and your health takes a glowing leap. Music sounds different, and life, like a springtime flower, just opens and opens and opens. Stay humble to the gift and count your blessings.
About the Author:
Christopher Walker
Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris’s work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au
Article Submitted On: October 25, 2006
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