Human beings are creatures that need social contact, just as much as they need to breath. Being uncomfortable when you are alone is a natural reaction. Many times in our life we feel and want to share our time, thoughts and other things with somebody. It will make us sad further if we are lonely and there was nobody you could turn to.
Friends are perfect solution to all problems of loneliness. As we grow up we all make friends depending upon our interactions with our peers. As we mature those contacts decrease in number because everybody has to follow a different path of life and everybody is not lucky enough to stay in the vicinity of friends.
Or worse we might just fall apart.
We loose contact with people as a natural process of life and work takes over.
Imagine what should you do if you realize one afternoon that you want to leave office earlier, which you have not done in seven years since you got hired, but there is nobody in your agenda that you can call and invite to join you for a cup of coffee, precisely because you practically never stopped working for the last years?
There are no such things as true friends for rent, or if there are, they are called shrinks and you have to get an appointment, so how can you manage to find or to make a new friend, especially in those horrible moments, when you feel you will do anything not to be alone anymore?
It is indeed correct that a true friendship means time investment, and, in the case of adults, it takes even more time to establish an honest connection with a new person. But what about those times in your life when work did not occupy 90% of your time?
Everybody had friends during childhood. Experts show that those bonds established during our infancy are the strongest and, as a result, why trying to build something from the ground, when there is something already built that only needs renovation?
That is why, specialists strongly advice you to reestablish connection with your old friends. The first step you should take, before dialing their number, is to invest some time and meditate on what led to this apparent lost of contact?
If it was something you did wrong, do not be afraid to admit it. Imagine that somebody comes to you after several years, begging pardon for something he or she did wrong. Would not you accept apologies? Of course you will and the same will do the friends you plan to contact.
When talking to them express you sincere feelings and donot be afraid to ask for moral support or spiritual counseling, if you need it. Put yourself in their position, and you will realize they surely cannot deny your request. But do not take advantage of them! Friendship is also about giving back, so always be ready to help the ones that helped you once.
What if you never found a true good friend? Than, no matter how old you are, it is high time you looked for one! Pay attention to the people you know and especially to the new people you meet.
Invite them out, but be careful not to become too aggressive. When people insist too much, we always tend to be more suspicious. That is why you have be patient, as a friendship takes time to build.
Nevertheless, never stop looking for new friends! Follow your intuition and maybe you will get to be the friend of somebody who is in the same situation as you are.
Seeking true friendship.
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Arun Pal Singh
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